Keeping your thoughts limited to this tightly knit circle will also prevent you from blabbering your opinion about the new couple to everyone.
Don't overcompensate with fake happiness: You don't have to pretend to like what's happening, so don't overdo it with sappy sweet congrats and good wishes ... If you get caught in a confrontation, just smile, have a pre-planned friendly sentence or two to recite, keep it short and sweet, and move on.
I guess I am wondering what any one else thinks about the situation. The divorce s finalized about 4 months ago and I just got the final paperwork on her getting her half of my retirement about a week ago. Although we had a connection and I believe we both were physically attracted to each other, our relationship was ALWAYS platonic. I hope what I have shared gives you a little more to think about given your situation.
Know that I don't think he should've texted you.
Since her death, I have gone with my dad to a few holiday events hosted at his other daughters’ houses, where we saw them and Cynthia. A few days ago, Dad told me that he and Cynthia are dating, and he asked me to wish them luck. ” I left immediately, and have ignored his phone calls ever since. I realize he’s a lonely old man who would like to maybe start dating again, but his ?
It feels like a total betrayal of my mother and me, like we were only some sort of intermission from his first family.
If you find yourself in this situation, you need to be prepared.(*A note here: Of course, there are varying degrees of gravity -- a former fling may be less of a big deal than a serious relationship, and if we're talking about a recent ex-husband or ex-wife and your friend, well, then, we'll go out on a limb and say that perhaps you should reconsider your friendship unless there is an extremely unique circumstance.)Have a support system handy: It's nice to ask one or two close friends to help you out.
They can keep you posted on what they see and hear about this new relationship, as it's never fun to be the last to know.
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My dad was married to a woman named “Cynthia” for 16 years until they divorced. My parents were married for 40 years, until Mom died of cancer a year ago.
Your new partner (your friend's ex) should as well, but remember that they have broken up, while you and your friend are still "together." An explanation of how important your friendship is to you and a sincere acknowledgment of the awkwardness of the situation might help.