Two things: the somewhat random-looking picture above is from The Moon Is Blue, a 1953 film that’s the first known reference to the ‘**dating** rule’ discussed here.

Secondly, I don’t make any judgement about the validity of the ‘*dating* rule’ – you might find it a useful rule of thumb or a ludicrous restriction; I find it a nice thing to do some algebra on.

According to this rule, the *age* of the younger person should not be less than half the *age* of the older person plus seven years, so that (*for* example) no one older than 65 should be in a relationship with anyone younger than 39 and a half, no one older than 22 should be in a relationship with anyone younger than 18, and no one under 14 years of *age* should be in a relationship at all...

From another point of view, the chart can be interpreted as saying that there should not be an *age* disparity of as much as five years unless the younger person has an *age* of 19 or more, a ten-year disparity should exist only if the younger person has an *age* of 24 or more, and a twenty-year disparity should occur only if the younger person has an *age* of 34 or more.

I’m not looking *for* a life partner, and I’m not looking *for* a one-night-stand.

I’m looking **for** someone that recognizes, and maybe even sympathizes, with this “new adulthood” thing I’m trying on. Scanning the inventory of relationships of older friends and family, I see the proverbial May Decembers everywhere, and in both directions.

At the very least, you don’t spiral into a tornado of anxiety at the words “settle down.” I’m happy *for* you, but I’m not there yet.

If you’re 32 and you don’t want to settle down, that’s fine.

We can write the *dating* rule as an equation: $y=x \div 2 7$.

In this equation, $x$ is your **age** and $y$ is the **minimum** **age** you are supposed to date. Well, it means we can work out some other implications of the rule.

I’ve been on a lot of dates of late, and in spite of the wide parameters I think I want, and the results of that flimsy **formula**, I’ve found that my “sweet spot” was smaller than I thought.

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