And it's important to understand that genital HSV is very common, affecting about 20% of the U. If you hope to be sexually intimate with your date at some point, you may feel like you're keeping a secret.
And of those people, it's likely that at least one will come around, and say, "Hey, I understand there's a risk, but I'm crazy about you, so I'm willing to take it." Depending on your dating style, you might look for another person who knows he or she has herpes, if only to avoid having to discuss it.
If you already use dating services or personal ads, you can also use any of those specifically for people with genital herpes.
It's up to you to decide the right time to tell a date that you have genital herpes.
Follow two rules: First, don't wait until after having sex.
It's also because HPV is ubiquitous in young women who haven't been vaccinated.
The CDC estimates that at least half of all sexually active adults will be infected at some point in their lives.
If you get the "I just want to be friends" talk after telling your sweetheart you have herpes, consider this: He or she may have already been looking for a way out, and herpes was as good an excuse as any.
What's more, anyone who disdains or humiliates you for having herpes was never worth your while.
As I mentioned above, most sexually active people will eventually be infected with HPV. It will never cause visible symptoms, such as genital warts. HPV infection can be serious,but they usually aren't.
The fact that you know you are dating someone with HPV could be seen as a good thing.
Second, don't wait until you're just about to have sex -- in which case the attraction may be too strong for either of you to think rationally and act responsibly.