What they didn't realize is that most men are more than happy to accept the "No Strings Attached" philosophy of "free love." His philosophy goes something like this: "If we live together, I will enjoy the convenience of having a quasi-wife, but without any messy responsibilities or financial risk." The male gatherer is into low stress relationships. " Meanwhile, he takes pleasure in having sex on a regular basis.
In the event he should decide the woman doesn't meet his needs after all, he has no problem leaving. Gratification with no commitment and no repercussions---That's his motto.
He is not the gentle, caring, fair minded man he claimed to be.
He believes relationships should be easy and uncomplicated. His expectations do not mirror the truth, which is that anything or anyone worth having requires time and effort. The easy love thing works for him, but it isn't working for her. Unwed mothers who struggle to raise their children without father's know this better than anyone.
Thus, having experienced disappointment in dating for the umpteenth time, many women carry around a perpetual cloud of frustration and anger. Male gatherer guy does not have the inclination or the stamina for true romance women crave.
He talked about how fun it was to get naked and paint women's bodies. He went on to say that the only disagreeable aspect of commune life was that the women were, "Really messed up." I guess so.
Having multiple partners, not knowing who the father of your child is and whether or not your lover(s) even remembered you from the day or night before would make any woman "a mess." The dirty little secret about 1960's "free love" men is that they were rampant chauvinists.
His thought is, "I'll go my way and she can go her way." To be sure, not all men act badly. What I am saying is that society has created the "male gatherer" and he is someone who does not understand that love and commitment actually matter.
He thinks what matters is that he keeps his freedom. His frustrated mom was working all of the time, and good ole' dad was MIA. Thus, the male gatherer had no positive role models to teach him what it means to become a grown-up.She doesn't have to become a man to be "equal." We are all equal by virtue of our humanity. He was highly educated, but the hippie mentality never really left him.Anyway, he told me that he had lived in a commune and that he really enjoyed his life.On an intuitive level, this essence is still alive today.However, since the advent of the sixties sexual revolution, American cultural standards have shifted.She will now be in a position to proactively guide her dating life in a manner that will finally allow her to experience true love and romance---the kind that has purpose, meaning, and staying power.