So then what happens if that special someone is like, really tall? Like, an inch shorter than you even though you’re 6’2,” tall.
For chrissakes, I'm talking about , Amy Webb's memoir about online dating, she confesses she felt she needed a man who was at least five-ten.
(Webb is five-six, making that requirement just one inch shy of the eight-percent average.) "I wanted someone to overpower me, who could wrap his entire body around me in a hug, but who could also throw me down on a bed and ravish me," she writes.
If you won't do it for yourself, try it for my sake.
I'd really appreciate if we could all stop asking "How tall are you?
I consider short guys my natural allies and am constantly making the case to my female friends that they should stop fetishizing tall men. To go on even just one date with someone who falls outside of our eight-percent range, and to ask ourselves whether there's actually less chemistry there.
(When one friend narrowed her Ok Cupid search to men taller than six feet and then complained about a boring date with some guy built like an NBA player, I laughed in her face.) Here's how I figure it: If a man is comfortable with the fact that I'm taller, he's also likely to be comfortable with the fact that I'm competitive and outgoing and career-oriented. To think of a world with all these new, gorgeous options.
The first question most strangers ask me is "How tall are you? In one survey, about half of collegiate men required their date to be shorter, while a monstrous nine of every ten women said they would only date a taller man.
" If I'm feeling charitable, I answer honestly: "6-foot-2." They often follow-up with, "Do you ever date shorter men? And online, it's even more brutal: Women can calculate how tall they are in their highest heels, add a few inches for good measure, and then filter out men who fall below that sum.
"Someone who's smaller may be wonderful, but in my case he will never make me feel like he's in control." (To those of you who just thought , I agree.
I'll get there in a minute.)Women have internalized the message that it's better for us to be smaller.
But while women say they have a "type"—they love bearded gingers or get off on guys in glasses—they don't filter out man who doesn't meet those specific physical criteria. It's a sweeping prejudice masquerading as sexual preference.